Mental Health

Make Someone’s Day

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You want to make someone’s day today? If you are out and about today, for I know many places are opening back up, think of something nice about each person you pass or come in contact with. Even better, tell them! 🙂  Or, if you still are not going out, but are on social media, tell someone on your social media.

Now how did that make you feel? Make your day by making someone else’s day better.

There is too much negativity in the world today.  People are dealing with depression, anxiety, loneliness, and who knows what else.  If we can just make a difference by making someone smile or feel better about themselves, even if only briefly, you never know how that might turn someone around to looking at things a little differently, a little better.

It always does my heart good to get a smile or a response of thanks for just a simple nice comment.  I normally do it just because I see something about that person I like so I want to say it. Their eyes, hair, clothes, shoes, the way they carry themselves or smile.  Anything!

Have a great day and share the love whenever you can 🙂

Belle

xo

Health

You Deserve Help

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Just because someone may be worse off than you, does not mean that your pain and need for help is not valid.

This is Dr. Julie Smith. She is amazimg and always has helpful input. A clinical psychologist, online educator, blogger and owner of a private practice in England.

The above link is from Tik Tok. Her website is https://doctorjuliesmith.com to find out more about her.

Belle xo

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People Pleasing

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Fawning.

“People pleasing, otherwise known as Fawning, can be a result of trauma.”

I read recently a post regarding this very thing from a person named Sam Dylan Finch.  His blog is called Let’s Queer Things Up.

He says: “Most people know about fight, flight, and freeze — but another trauma response, “fawn,” is at the core of what people-pleasing is actually about.”

“To avoid conflict, negative emotions, and re-traumatization, people who “fawn” when triggered will go out of their way to mirror someone’s opinions and appease them in order to deescalate situations or potential issues.”

It is my understanding (in my perception of his take on this) that he basically says that in order to feel safe and loved a person will go out of their way to please those around them they have an emotional bond to, even if it takes away that person’s boundaries and morals.

To read more on this subject and the information he shares, go here to learn more.

Belle xo